HexesofVexes

I dunno about a fun game to play, but it’s a really neat way to explore Markov chains!

Often people say “life is what you make of it”, but that’s not quite true. You can try to steer your life by your actions, but in reality fortune plays a greater role than you can imagine.

I have been very fortunate in my life, most people I know have not been. From broken dreams, blossoming mental illness, to just plain old death - a lot of the people I care about have been robbed of joy in their lives.

It’s not something they gave up through weakness of character, it was something taken from them. When you are young, you’ve maybe only had a couple of bad rolls, but when you’re older odds are you’ll be worse off (the probability of misfortune often being higher than that of fortune).

Well, next time I need to fart while lecturing I know what I’m doing…

Yes and no; I’ve met some people who were great to date but hell to live with.

A good relationship starts with both people knowing what they want - and continual contact helps determine if the other person is being honest about what they want. Post 35/30, this process is often a lot faster, and dating skill matters less than ability not to annoy the person you’re suddenly around 24/7.

If it matches from the start, or a compromise grows, you’re in for a winner. Otherwise, back to the sea of the undead you go, no matter how good your dating skill!

Intention and reality are two different things - although I can’t say I ever managed casual dating for 2 years! Usually most folks are in a relationship after 1.

I think it goes further than that - post 35 (post 30 really) there is a lot more pressure to shift from casual dating to a relationship at a faster pace.

Life experience talking here too, it isn’t just “being upfront”, it’s also being willing to move at a faster pace.

The real secret to dating after 35 - don’t.

Folks are not looking to “date”: they’re after long term commitment OR quick hook ups. The middle ground really vanishes when you get older!

Fun UK fact - we use a different ranking system for lecturers:

Lecturer Senior Lecturer Reader Professor

That means, at some point, someone has been a “Reader in X at Reading”.

The best thing for a vegan to do is to keep being a vegan. Seriously, just keep on doing it.

It doesn’t mean evangelise, it doesn’t mean denigrate, it means just carry on doing what works for you.

If you’re insulting other folks, or trying to push a lifestyle, odds are folks don’t dislike you because you’re vegan.